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EMERGENCY: 120°F Weather! We Need Help Feeding People, Providing Water, and Creating Shade For Ourselves and Our Neighbors
July 30th, 2023
My partner and I are homeless trans women living in a squatter town in the desert called Slab City!
In Slab City there are no utilities, that means no electrical company, no gas company, and definitely no water company! Everyone has to provide their own for their own camp.
We have two 355 gallon tanks that we use for our camp and let our neighbors fill jugs from. It costs $40 each to hire someone to fill our tanks with drinking water and it drains from use in little over a week.
Right now we’re nearing the bottom of the tank and we need your help to fill it back up!
Neither of us have a regular income, but we’re both involved in a project to better our local community. See more here and here.
Please donate to help us raise $40 to allow us to refill our water tank so that we and our community can have water to drink!
- CаshApp: $ThistleDD
- Pаypal: paypal.me/ThistleDD
- Vеnmo: @ThistleDD
If you can’t dоnаte please reblog and share on your other accounts!
Please help! It’s been ~120°F everyday for the last couple of weeks!
Without ice and water we would die pretty quickly out here and we need new shade cloth for our shade structure!
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On the topic of new trans men figuring themselves out and how it’s not like anyone gives out a manual on how to be a man, and also on the topic of supporting more queer POC
Can we talk about the unique experience of genuinely not knowing what haircuts to even consider when you’re black??? Because like… “short hair” happens with both black men and black women, bald/shaved happens with both, long happens with both, braids and locs happen with both, afros happen with both
It took me forever to figure out that I can do all of the variations I’d been doing, just that the unique styling is different on these gender lines.
As a Black trans man who wants a hair cut really bad, it’s hard for me to even visualize a buzz cut on a Black person. Like I see so many posts helping trans men out with how they would look if they got a hair cut, but pretty much all of them have white people as examples. Trans men of color are THAT invisible to the point to were I’ve convinced myself that I wouldn’t look good with short hair.
Sure, I can look up pics of Black men with a buzz cut but 99.9% of them are gonna be cis Black men, folks I look nothing like. And if I add in trans, I’m scared that instead of getting articles about hair cuts, I’m gonna articles about violence we’ve faced over these past few years.
I wanna see sites and articles discussing Black hair and styles for Black trans people. If there’s a site for it, I’d like to know dearly and I want that shit to be boosted to high hell because resources for Black hair, let alone for Black trans people aren’t really around. Especially when it comes to Black folks with 4c hair, like myself.
At the end of the day, no Black trans men or Black trans person in general should be convincing themselves that they’d look ugly with shorter or longer hair, just because they can’t seem themselves being represented anywhere. It shouldn’t get to that point. Ever.
You’re right, even trying to google black trans masc hairstyles mostly just gets you white people with white people hair. Yeah sorry that’s literally not possible with my hair texture.
I’ve sort of had to… make things up as I go along. Like you, I was told repeatedly that my hair texture does not look good when cut short. It took me a very long time to want to try a shorter style as a result. It took me even longer to say fuck it, big chop, and shave my head bald. There. Starting fresh.
What I’ve found has been working for me is to first figure out what hair texture you have. I find just googling “black male hairstyle” will get you mostly 4c hair which is great for those who have it and the facial structure to match! And less great for those who don’t! With me having 3b/3c hair, I was able to find a number of short styles on a wide variety of faces and thus was able to figure out what worked best for how I like to look. And it did take some experimentation and trust, but it ultimately made me really appreciate taking the time to actually do my hair rather than feeling like it was this massive chore.
Once you find your hair texture, you need to do two things:
Figure out what hairstyles you like best with your hair texture. Avoid gendered terms if you can. If you want a short style, look for short styles. If you want a long style, look for long styles. BLACK MEN CAN AND DO WEAR THEIR HAIR LONG frequently as an afro, braids, or locs. It’s up to you to then decide if that long look is something you’re interested in, and how to masculinize it if so. Personally, I prefer the ever popular shaved sides look, and eventually will be getting braids or locs with the length on the top depending if my 3b/3c hair will actually cooperate with locs. I did the fro look for a while and I’ve had cornrows but for the most part I put some product in it and wear my natural curls that way. Protective styling is a big big thing with black men even though it’s mostly only spoken about in the context of female styles. I had a really long conversation with a black coworker about protective styles and how he chooses to do his hair, which is actually longer than mine.
And, figure out the best care for your hair texture. For me, I have a rotating schedule of oil to rub into my scalp and shea butter pomade to style with when wearing my hair natural. All those selfies of mine, if my hair is free, it’s got one of the two in it. I got a lot better about protecting my hair at night, using a leave-in overnight and the day after wash day. Being consistent on the timing of wash day. I use black owned shampoo and conditioner in my hair made specifically for black men. I use a durag and a sport cap to protect my hair on days when its most prone to damage. My hair has never been healthier and I’ve never been happier with the way I can wear and style it.
It was a huge transition for me because I used to have waist-length hair and then shaved my head bald about a year and a half ago to start over and build a better routine than semi resentment from the ground up.
With your 4c hair I would say to take a glance at these:
As there are a number of different styles besides just shaving your head completely bald, and depending on your comfort level, you can try out a good deal of them before making a firm decision on what exactly you want your head to look like.
You can also do like me and just walk into a barber shop and tell them that you have to play a male character for a production and you have no idea what to do with your hair and see if they’ll help you, but I recommend only doing that if you’re willing to get a “we don’t cut girl hair” while you’re trying it. I did that the first time I cut my hair short and to his credit he did cut my hair fairly short and style it well, but it was still far too feminine for me, so I explored a lot of options after that.
Holy shit thank you! @ my followers, PLEASE boost this addition! Black trans folks out there might need this and it might just help them out with their hair or even with just simply feeling seen! A Black trans person taking time out of their day to share their experiences and resources could use some boosting and this carries a lot of personal information and advice in it! DON’T undermine this valuable information!!!
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If you’ve got 5 minutes to spare, could I interest you in a short survey about titles? Everyone of any age, gender or location is invited, and it’s open until at least Monday 14th August 2023.
Thank you!
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i don’t get the whole deadname thing. like i do empirically but it never applied to me. personally my birth name’s like. idk, yugoslavia? it’s not accurate to call me that now and if you do you’re a bit dense, but sometimes you need to speak about history with the names it had at the time, and that’s all good.
no my parents did not name me yugoslavia. that’s not what this post says.
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support needed disabled and like suffering my bad
hiiii i’m so sorry to do this again so soon but im currently on LOA(leave of absence working on some ADA leave) until 8/9 after i finally see my doctor about my gastrointestinal issues and pain that has prevented me from working bcuz of that i rly dont have any income and rent is knocking on the door again, my phone bill and storage until as well and sadly i also must eat and get to stores and doctors
i did just get catfood and some house stuff 🫀 but i am TAPPED
if anyone could boost donate a couple dollars to a sick mixed queer i would fucking lose it 🫀🫀🫀🥺🥺
plz n thank uuu
0/650
update: due to a fucking stupid subscription i forgot to cancel and my insurance some of my funds i was saving for more important bills got eaten im upset and hoping this keeps getting spread i need to be able to have train fare for my doctors appt as well and im stressed
15/650
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so i lost my job today because i’ve missed so much due to my mental health issues i’m gonna try to get another job but i’m still struggling with my mental health (severe depression, anxiety and borderline personality disorder)
please help and share if you can i’m really scared and i have alot of bills coming out
$purrpop
ven m0 and p@ypa! @brambleberry27
You. wanna help me not be hungry and pay my bills. yes
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“My Body, My Abortion, my Transition, My Choice”
Seen in Asheville, North Carolina
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In honour of disability pride month, we made a disability Pride Knight! Stay proud! ⚔️🌈
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icant even explain why i feel this way about it but this meme, this specific version, just makes me so emotional i love it so so much. its very heartwarming. peace n love on planet earth
Oh my god that’s my friend Don!!! He helps run Crypticon here in the Midwest and is a big collector of physical media and horror memorabilia.
He and his wife just got into a bad car accident recently, if you enjoy this meme, PLEASE consider donating to their GoFundMe!
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